It’s Okay to Not Be Okay: My Mental Health Journey

A few years ago, I took a picture. It was one of several I captured during a challenging time in my life. I wasn’t sure why I took these photos then, and until now, I’ve never shared them. Some of my closest friends and family know that I was in a dark place, struggling with so many things that it became hard to keep going.

One of my favorite things to do was run. It gave me a sense of freedom, clarity, and energy. Working night shifts, I even had the flexibility to work out during my shift. I took my pre-workout, feeling ready to go, but something happened. I couldn’t get myself to run even 20 or 50 feet. In the picture I took that day, all I could think was, "What the hell is going on?" I had lost my energy and drive. All I wanted to do was sleep, lay around, and, honestly, be a bum.

This slump didn’t just affect my fitness. My productivity at work, my real estate sales, and my relationships all took a downward trend. I was spiraling, and I didn’t know how to stop it.

Then I thought about something: if Simone Biles, on the biggest stage in the world, can admit that she needs to take a step back, then I can too. That moment was a turning point for me. I decided to schedule an appointment with my primary care provider to figure out what was happening. With the help and support of my family, friends, and a couple of co-workers, I began the slow crawl out of the hole I was in.

Today, on World Mental Health Awareness Day, I want to say: it’s okay to not be okay. No one will fault you or think less of you because you want to get better. I recently heard a speech at the Rotary, and the speaker said the best three words they’ve ever spoken were, “I need help.” Those words changed their life for the better.

I know it can be hard to open up. Some people you think are in your corner might not be, but I can guarantee that those who are will surprise you. Your support system will be larger and stronger than you could ever imagine. Along this journey, you’ll realize that you are definitely not alone.

So here’s my challenge to you: if you feel like you might not be okay, please talk to someone. And if you see a colleague, friend, or family member whose behavior has changed—they’ve become more isolated, lost interest in their hobbies, or shifted their attitude—don’t be afraid to ask, “Are you okay?”

Use today to reflect on your mental health and the well-being of those around you. Mental health matters. If Simone Biles can take a step back and prioritize her mental well-being on the world stage, why can’t you?